Hi! I know we haven't talked much and I'd like to. There are a couple of good movies out, I'm interested in (title x) and also (title y). Which would you like to see with me? (then smile nicely and shut up until after she's talked)
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Movies are fun. Seeing movies with friends, any kind, is more fun.
"Do you want to go out with me?" "Do you want to go see a movie?" are confrontational questions and will always get a NO. (But look at how Dngrsone asked it - not confrontational.)
Any leading question about dating you or not about the fun is going to get a NO.
Anything without strings attached that basically asks - Would you like to have fun with me doing (something specific)? - will nearly always get a yes.
My sample question at the beginning is forward - it assumes she'll say yes.
That's just me - anyone who doesn't want to have fun is doing me a favor saying no so I know where they stand.
It's about going to the movies to have fun.
If it's about going to the movies to prove something, why bother?
You have a nice time, you see how it goes, and you take it easy. If you both laugh or get scared at the same scenes, you talk about it after, just like with your buddies or family.
Good news - nothing anyone says is going to change your confidence.
Ever stand next to the pool knowing that plunge is going to freeze? Well guess what - it does. How do you get in? You take control even though you're dreading it and just jump in.
Asking girls out is just like that.
One day you'll look back and see that not all of the girls that turned you down was a bad thing and not all of the girls that said yes was a good thing.
Jump in with a smile, have fun, make up your mind that what you're feeling, nervous, never goes away, so don't think about it. It's like standing next to the pool and thinking about it.
