ok....first off thanks for the replies and the stories.
After I saw drexappeal and Ceva321's post i left work and started to back up my device on the train on my way home, then drove to Best Buy....they were packed! I had already check and they had the Titanium Grey in stock, so i got there i got in line. As the three reps were handling customers a forth was going though the line to see what we were there for, I guess to speed up the process. I explain to the guy i basically wanted to trade the white phone to the grey if it was an option. He said that ATT was not able to, but would verify if Verizon could. He came back and said no, they did not offer that as a service. As i stated above I asked how about if I return the device and came back 10 mins later could I do that. After a quick giggle he said i guess so, so I said thanks and stood there thinking about my options as he went to service the next person.
As I moved up the line he comes back and asked if i decided what i wanted to do. I then explained to him the situation A) I went to buy the phone the day before the release and went through all the process until they tried to ring it up and they couldnt. Came back the next morning to do it all over again. Then B) the morning i went in it said it had two Greys in stock, but could not find one so i took the white. The guy says hmmm, i would do it for you, but let me call the manager to see if it could be done. Sure enough the manager comes and i explain the story again and he says no problem and tells the cashier to go ahead and ring it up.
Bam...got the grey and even managed to get $3.49 back in cash and some more ( i didnt look at the receipt yet ) added back to my card. So for anyone trying to do this it does have to be withen the 14 days and it wouldnt hurt to give them a little story. The sales person who processed the return and swapped the phones was great. Took about 1-2 hours, but he was cool. The Manager was awesome, a low spoken gentleman or even a cool cat reminding me of 007. Shout outs to both!
Sorry so long, but though the info and extra detail may help someone else. Thanks again for the replies and for reading.....have a great night!
Edit:
Let me add to my wall of text. The first time I went ( the day before release ) and today the sales rep went to the cabinet to get the phone and could not find the Titanium Grey...come to find out both associates both times were looking for a grey box not knowing it only came in white. Had i known this to begin with i may have walked home with a Grey the first night. This help my story although already true, but just helped confirmed...even justify it in every ones mind what they were doing was the right thing to do.