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Age gap in dating?

They're both legal age, so I don't have a problem with it. You never know, it might just work out.
 
IME nature has a way of taking care of this sort of thing by itself.

Sure, we all love the beauty, health and general freshness that youth has. It's only natural that older people are still attracted to that. The thing is that it rarely works both ways. To a 19-year-old young woman, I look exactly like thin air.

I think it was Dave Barry who put it best when he wrote "you know you're old when nubile young women no longer see you as a sexual being."
 
Well, I'm fortunate enough to be Asian so we age well. People often thing I'm 5-10 yrs younger than I actually am. Of course that doesn't change the fact that no matter how old I look, I still really am an old fart.
 
A.Nonymous said:
Personally, I have a theory that all guys are knuckleheads until at least their mid-20s. At least that long. Some longer than others, but I don't see very many who are not knuckleheads into their mid-20s.
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Isn't that the truth.

I too remember my knucklehead days. :rolleyes:
 
A.Nonymous said:
Well, I'm fortunate enough to be Asian so we age well. People often thing I'm 5-10 yrs younger than I actually am. Of course that doesn't change the fact that no matter how old I look, I still really am an old fart.
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*high-five* same here :D i'm still in university (pursuing a second undergrad, though), and i'm waaay older than all my friends, but i still pass for 18-19 ;p

re your friend, i don't think he should rush into it. why not stay friends with the girl and see? if she were in her early 20s, my opinion may be different. but experience also plays a big role. i don't have much experience with romantic relationships even though i'm already __ (lol), but that's because my culture expects me to date only a few men, and maybe even get it right the first time.
 
wyndslash said:
*high-five* same here :D i'm still in university (pursuing a second undergrad, though), and i'm waaay older than all my friends, but i still pass for 18-19 ;p

re your friend, i don't think he should rush into it. why not stay friends with the girl and see? if she were in her early 20s, my opinion may be different. but experience also plays a big role. i don't have much experience with romantic relationships even though i'm already __ (lol), but that's because my culture expects me to date only a few men, and maybe even get it right the first time.
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you run with a younger crowd.. so that gives you a younger twist when people look at you.

we asians do look younger... men and women. so we can better guess each others age.

i am in my 40s... but a college girl was interested in me. it took a lot of control to leave her as a friend. i guess i am finally not a knucklehead!
 
wyndslash said:
*high-five* same here :D i'm still in university (pursuing a second undergrad, though), and i'm waaay older than all my friends, but i still pass for 18-19 ;p

re your friend, i don't think he should rush into it. why not stay friends with the girl and see? if she were in her early 20s, my opinion may be different. but experience also plays a big role. i don't have much experience with romantic relationships even though i'm already __ (lol), but that's because my culture expects me to date only a few men, and maybe even get it right the first time.
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Come down here and date my friend then. Problem solved. :D
 
I'm 32 and my missus is 23.. we got together when she was 18 and apart from her older brother initially disliking me we've never had a problem.. we have 2 kids now and never looked back. If your friend likes her then let him do as he pleases, you trying to convince him she's not right will only push them together and make them closer.. thats what happened to us.
 
Do you know what MYOB is? It's Mind Your Own Business. I'm 62 and if I could find someone younger than me that 'd be great. After all, women outlive men. There is actually a Age Gap dating site. Following the American Civil War, several veterans married women 30 to 60 years their junior. The last Civil War widow died in 2004 having married her 82 year old husband at age 21. Age Gap has been going on for a long time. It's also known as May-December marriages.
 
I really don't have an objection to this, I've been dating older girls since I was 18. I'm 22, and my fiance is 27.

30:19 is quite a big gap. However, my mother and father were 15 years apart, so I really can't say much.
 
My parents are 8 years apart, my dad was 26 and my mom was 18 when they met. She was on her H.S. senior class trip to Florida (from MN). He was the bus driver :D.
 
Wife and I are barely a year apart. We met in high school though. :).
Mom and dad are only a couple months apart.
I have a cousin who just got married to a much older gentlemen. They're in love and that's all that matters. :D
 
Let me tell you, it's best just to butt out and let them work it out good or bad.
I am 56 and my wife of 14 years is 34. Yea, that's right. We got together when she was 20. 3 wonderful boys too. And the secret is simple. I'm not trying to be younger and she's not looking for a father figure. We just accept not only who the other is, but we accept our self as well.
So it's really time to let folks work out their lives for themselves. Doesn't matter what the age gap is because no relationship is perfect or guaranteed.
 
I dated 29 year old girl when I was 20. Things did not work out, but there were no hard feelings and I think it was great life experience. I got my head straight forward for much better life.
 
Yes I dated a 20 yr. old and I was 31...it was fun at the time, but in the end she blew my nose and then she blew my mind! No hard feelings after we split due to my fault.
 
Just a number, at the end of the day its life experiences and maturity that matter.

Sure he can date a chick his age and then their relationship might end up being a disaster being either his fault or his partner's.

Or that 19 year old and him might just be perfect for each other, and might end up being very happy together.

Only problems with age gaps is society and aging, but if the love is there then they'll get through it.

My grandpa was 15 years older than my grandma, they were very happy together and loved each other very much. My grandpa passed 2 years ago, and my grandma hasn't been the same since.. shes more quiet, and just isn't the same anymore and it just kills me seeing her that way because she loved my grandpa very much. They were happily married 42 years.

So if shes mature, smart, kind and has good things going for herself whats the problem aside from you guys not liking it?
 
You raise an interesting point, Kaiser. While there are no guarantees in life, it is significantly more likely that the younger partner in a May-December romance will outlive the other by a great number of years. I wonder if any consideration to what comes "after" is made in the beginning?

When the marriage is right and the bond between people is strong, losing half of that is often devastating for the surviving partner. My grandparents were 19 and 21 when they married, lived into their 90's and died less then 2 years apart. My parents were very close in age as well and died within 3 years of each other. My wife and i have a 1-1/2 year age difference so I anticipate neither of us surviving the other for too long, unless one of us gets hit by a bus.

I think part of the (typical) romantic ideal is growing old together and into eternity together.
 
I hadn't thought of the long term ramifications either. I'm debating whether to pitch this to my friend or not. With a 10-15 yr difference and the younger party being the woman it's almost certain she'll outlive him and probably significantly. Will retirement savings hold out if the woman outlives the man by 20-30 yrs or more? With this guy though it is more likely she will smother him in his sleep inside of a 5 yrs I think.
 
Really nobody's business, period. Wouldn't matter if he was 60 & she was 18, cause 18 is legally an adult. Not being rude, these are just the facts, don't be a Bloomberg to your pal. Besides, isn't Justin Beiber dating Joan Collins now?
 
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I hadn't thought of the long term ramifications either. I'm debating whether to pitch this to my friend or not. With a 10-15 yr difference and the younger party being the woman it's almost certain she'll outlive him and probably significantly. Will retirement savings hold out if the woman outlives the man by 20-30 yrs or more? With this guy though it is more likely she will smother him in his sleep inside of a 5 yrs I think.
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seriously?? I wasn't going to babble my two cents in on this one but....seriously?

I think you think too much;)

leave him alone..what happens is what happens..good bad ugly it doesn't matter it's his life to live his lessons to learn his love his joy his pain his happiness and his retirement money..not yours:p

seriously though..age is nothing but a number..and who cares ??

how old would you be if you didn't know your age?

besides if he didn't go for it .. on the ridiculous grounds of what other people think he would regret it..and possibly you if you don't keep it zipped and start supporting him..( and I mean that in the nicest way possible.. honest)..:)

You see, That's what friends do...they support and stick up for each other even when they know they're wrong..and they are there to help pick up the pieces when needed.....(unless it is a matter of life and death..then by all means butt right in.. I'll have to save that topic for another mindless ramble)

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered with time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable."
-can't remember who said it to give proper credit here



but you get my point...;)
 
I caught a lot of flack for dating a 28 year old woman (dare I use old and woman in the same sentence?) when I was 42. As long as it is not illegal or grossly exaggerated like 70 and 20 (and even then what are the circumstances) who cares.
 
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