follow up - i disabled both zedge and the profile manager, profile valet, and that didn't do anything to help it. i was able to create folders on the media card, then move the files from the zedge to the ones i created. this allowed the files to be picked form the individual apps, but the overall setting on the main screen seems to take priority.
i thought i had it, i was getting diff notices for e mail and sms, but not calendar. when i tried to make adjustments for that, i started getting the calendar notification for e mail and sms.
arrrgghh!
please someone help us!!!!