My loss of Joy Noelle has been awful, as everyone knew it would be, but I have to say that on the list of my pets' deaths (and this is going to sound really weird), hers was the best one. Let me [attempt to] explain.
Throughout the decades, each pet ultimately reached a point where their quality of life was no longer good, at all. I kept some of them alive longer than I should have--for purely selfish reasons, because I couldn't bear to think of life without them--and I've regretted that for years and years. With each pet, when it was clear that no further medical care could help, and they were miserable and just wanted release, off we went to our vet and had them euthanized, always staying with them throughout, always petting and talking to them, holding them to get off the cold steel table ASAP, and waited for the vet to verify no heartbeat. Then sat there and cried and cried... went home with an empty carrier... cried and cried...
An exception--and the death that ranks worst of all time, actually making me near-catatonic in the days that followed--was my beautiful, big, fat, ultra-affectionate (to me) Willie, full name Wilshire Coronado (as explained numerous times, named for the intersection in downtown LA where I found him as a little kitten). I woke up that morning and he was sleeping wrapped around my head on my pillow--that was one of his favorite places; another was under the covers on my tummy. Joy Noelle was on my tummy, Willie was on my head, we woke up, I kissed and petted Willie as usual, got dressed, asked him if he wanted to come out of the bedroom with me, he didn't, so I left. This was all normal. On days when he didn't come out with me, I'd go back a little while later and by then he'd come out into the rest of the house, and take up his position on my lap. This morning I went back to my room about an hour later (normal) and walked in and saw who I THOUGHT was Maggie May, an adult (mistreated, abused) cat I'd adopted because when I saw her, she looked so similar to Willie she just caught my eye, and when I heard her story, I filled out the adoption papers), laying on the floor, their back to me. (I feel like I've typed this before...) I said something like 'what are you doing sleeping down there you silly girl?!' But the cat didn't move. In a split second I realized the cat was dead. I thought it was Maggie. Then I glanced over to my bed....and there was Maggie May looking at me. I walked toward Willie, calling out his name, then dropped down on the floor and touched him--I so badly wanted him to be alive, but he was definitely dead. Still very warm. Like it just happened. My best friend arrived (she had called earlier and we were going to have coffee) and came in. I was holding Willie and sitting on the floor in the den, crying my eyes out. She was shocked. I tried explaining what happened, but I was SO OUT OF IT I really don't know how to explain it. I cradled him in a soft towel for hours, berating myself for not having been with him. My friend called my vet and told them; they said to bring him in for cremation. At some point she made me give him to her so she'd get to the vet before they closed. I spent days...weeks...in an altered state of reality, unable to accept that Willie had died, and had died ALONE on the floor, without his mommy. It was a month or two later when I took in...I don't remember, one of my pets for some kind of vet visit, and my vet told me that Maine Coon cats (which Willie was, but I never cared about--he was just a beautiful, sweet kitten in need of rescue from Wilshire Boulevard) are VERY prone to sudden cardiac arrest, and that's what happened to Willie. She assured me up and down that there's NOTHING I could've done in his 14-1/2 years that could have prevented his death when it happened. It was basically in the cards the whole time, I just didn't know about it.
That death, by far, hurt the most and left me the most unable to function. Saying I was catatonic is probably a bit over-the-top, but it gets the point across. In contrast, Joy Noelle's peaceful, gentle, calm death in my arms, on our bed, in our house, with no needles and no trip to the 'mean man' was by far the best pet death ever. Her last breath at 4:04pm will forever be with me...as I literally watched as her soul left her body, evidenced by her eyes, which were open. The sweet, precious face was there, but she was gone...
I know that you're hurting right now because you weren't with Bubbles right when he collapsed, but you did have those last three hours to remind him how much he meant to you and how he was so loved. As my vet told me when Willie died, don't beat yourself up because there's NOTHING you could've done differently. You weren't home because you had things to do. You didn't know what was about to happen. Like that morning I left Willie in the bedroom for an hour...