No problem, Tryn2getaclu, this isn't an easy area at all - and it was the first thing that had me completely buffaloed about Android, so I know how it is.
Here's the deal on what the beast is you're fighting - what Android programmers call the
intent.
That is a nifty Android app management tool - but - it has become abused in very pernicious ways.
Here's how it works and this is all good: I have a music app running and there's a sister app (same dev or not) that will look up lyrics or artwork. So, you run one of those and an intent is set to run the other two - so - they're good to go at what seems like an instantaneous response to you, the user. OK - that's pretty cool.
But - they're abused in ways you can easily imagine. In my case, I had the Amazon MP3 Store on my Evo as bloatware. Never used it, never will (don't buy mp3s from Amazon, thanks). But - one day, I log in to my Amazon account via my web browser - and presto! - the Amazon MP3 Store app would not die, would not shut up. I'd kill it, it would restart, and then babble with the Amazon servers. The less I did, the more that pig used my battery. They decided _my_ intent was to be in love with Amazon. Others that didn't follow my steps never had a lick of trouble with that app - because no software intent was set by the system.
And - we users cannot get control of intents.
So - on to ATK. I hate ATK because Android changes its app management system from time to time (improving) - and I personally don't like taking on faith that ATK has the right mechanisms in place for any given update.
In general, task killing is like a drug - the more you do it, the more you need to do it, because the evil apps twiddle the intents until they can auto-start faster than you can kill them by any means. So - there's no answer to how soon an app will re-start other than:
it depends on how evil the app is.
The good news is that the number one deal with bad apps is they seem to like to sneak in the background and use the internet -
therefore, turning off constant Background Data is a good thing. Your Mail app will still get all of your mail just fine without it (I don't bother with Gmail, prefer Mail for all accounts anyways).
News, Stocks and all of the social networking stuff built-in with Sense - those are all insisting that you want all that info up to date, and their developers all think you have infinite resources - as you've discovered. The earlier Elair + Sense let us turn off syncing altogether for those offenders on a case-by-case basis, but they've since done us a big favor and fixed that. (sarcasm)
If in your playing around you've gotten all sorts of things running and your phone has gotten a little chaotic, you can save your data and apps, do a factory reset, and restore your stuff. Lots of people hate that like a tooth-pulling until they try it. Instructions here -
http://androidforums.com/evo-4g-support-troubleshooting/141369-how-fix-froyo.html
I avoided that when I was new, but now I swear by it - it fixes a great many evils.
In the meantime, try what works for you - but be very careful - it's easy to believe you're seeing instant results from task killing that a good week of monitoring will make you see otherwise.
As for rooting - it's really the same as getting Administrator privileges on a Windows PC. You don't have to jump in, get custom roms and kernels and go nuts. Once you have root access, you can use Titanium Backup Pro. That will let you "freeze" apps (they'll still be there, but they won't be recognized as programs, so they won't run - they're invisible). You want to freeze rather than delete until you know what you can and cannot remove - if you screw something up, you unfreeze whatever you froze last. So - the concept is not difficult - but sometimes the steps and jargon can be scary at first.
Rooting is NOT for everyone, but I advise everyone to at least give it a thorough checking-out because there's no substitute for being able to take full control of your phone to stop the nonsense.
No matter what, you'll probably end up killing the browser from time to time because it doesn't manage memory well (c'mon Gingerbread!) or in event you visited some site that had a lot of near-malware javascript happening in it.
Let me know if I answered in a way that makes any sense!