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cougar214

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I really don't know where to begin. I'm in my new place. Not by choice I assure you. Things haven't been going very well for me. Long story short, Lots of fighting, discovering cheating, unable to hide it any longer she did the only think she could think of. She took a restraining order out on me.

I faught it in court and won. She still refuses to fess up to anything. I don't see anything other than a perminent split. I tried hiding in a bottle but all I got from that was reality still standing in front of me and a hangover.

I'm trying to move on using my anger as a crutch but it is so hard to maintain that illusion with all the pain of being hurt and betrayed. My friends are helping me to stay sain the best they can. Getting my new apartment up and running helps to keep me busy but that is only temporary.

I have been reading the comments left on my last post and I thank all of you for your support while I'm going through this mess. My wife and I don't have any kids together so we are going by way of quick and clean divorce.

Everything should be final in a few weeks. I have made my fair share of mistakes in this relationship. There is no denying that. The only thing that's consoling me now is taking comfort in the knowledge that I made this woman want for nothing.

And that's not an easy thing to do when you're a poor man. I thought I loved her enough but I guess I was wrong. As they say, We are always the last to know. But I do think it's time I get back in the saddle and ride my DX forum around for a bit each day.

You guys are the best friends anyone could ever hope to have. I may not be smiling for a while but I know life goes on and things will slowly get better with time. I have been through bad break ups before but marriage seems to make things feel a little bit different.

So it would appear I have some reading to do to catch up on the goings on around here.
 
Welcome back. Been there, lost the T-shirt. It will get better and I hope things work out for the best for you.
 
welcome back,,

i have been there also. Luckily you guys don't have kids.

I know everywhere you turn your head is probably something negative right now but try your best to find some positives in the situation. They are there you just have to look for them. In every bad situation i've ever been in i've always tried to find at least a couple of positives for me to hang on to and it has always helped.

be strong.
 
hey cougar glad to see your back and everything is going better than it does for some people..i just had a baby on the First so i havent been around the forums much but i am glad to here you are doing better!! JUst hang in there!! Theres a reason everything happens
 
Awful to have to go through something like that.

Stay busy. If you don't have an outdoor/athletic hobby, take one up. Even if it's just spending a month walking around and improving your photography skills with your DX. Buy a bike, start running, take up weight lifting, whatever... just something that will let you get out of the house and requires enough focus that your mind won't wander.

Best of luck.
 
Awful to have to go through something like that.

Stay busy. If you don't have an outdoor/athletic hobby, take one up. Even if it's just spending a month walking around and improving your photography skills with your DX. Buy a bike, start running, take up weight lifting, whatever... just something that will let you get out of the house and requires enough focus that your mind won't wander.

Best of luck.


+1 to that
 
Welcome back. Glad to hear you are doing a bit better. As an old guy, I can tell you one thing that is certain...
Life will get better! I guarantee it! Out of chaos and confusion comes the need to step up. I believe you will. Like others have said, you need to see things as positive going forward. Focus on what makes you happy. You have the choice to make things better. Make that choice. :D
Good luck!
Like I tell my son.
"Just keep swimming" - Dory
 
This situation will always grind in your gut...............BUT.................as time passes you will indeed learn to live with it. It will never go away, same as a close person dying, you just learn to deal with things and life MUST go on.

Wish you the very best and hope you have the strength to move on as quickly as possible given your situation. Hang in there bro.....................the sun continues to shine :):)
 
Wow i feel your pain, i raised my daughter since birth to only find out when she is 15 that she
Isnt mine.
Life sucks ill never stay in a bad relationship ever again, i dont care if i have to live in a tent in the woods.
 
Wow i feel your pain, i raised my daughter since birth to only find out when she is 15 that she
Isnt mine.
Life sucks ill never stay in a bad relationship ever again, i dont care if i have to live in a tent in the woods.


I went through that myself. An ex girlfriend and I got back together because the little boy she had was "mine". 2 years later I found out he wasn't and it was just a ploy to get me back.

I can't imagine finding out 15 years later. I think I would have flipped out. Things are slow going for me right now. Trying to find new ways to keep myself busy is a frustrating thing to do. You get so used to your life being one way.

My head is still spinning with emotions right now. I'm hurt and upset but also so very angry and bitter. I know I shouldn't look at it this way but right now I can't stand women. They are all the same to me.

Nothing but a bunch of cheating liers. Just like ferrits, happy as long as their getting their hands on shinny things.
 
I wish you lived around me.... We would be having beers and talking this all out... Vent when you can... It always helps... We're all here for you brother.
 
Glad to see you're back. Keep your head up, think positive, spend as much time as possible with friends and eventually things will get better for you.
 
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