Seriously though, I would be far more annoyed by the lack of function of the iPhone than the lags of the Note (which may be fixed soon). Is my opinion unique? Clearly not, given the number of iPhone users.
This has turned into quite an interesting thread discussion. Here is one area that you and I disagree...partly. You are bang on when you say Apple has too much control and lock down. However, my jailbroken iPhone does pretty much everything my Note did. And in some cases I found out I needed to root my Note to get some functionality my jailbroken iPhone did. And in some cases I found out that I needed to replace the native Note apps with third party ones to get ones that were not buggy or that were fully featured.
So to get where I want to be I have to either:
A. Jailbreak, modify, tinker with my iPhone to have a kick a$$ phone.
B. Root, modify, tinker with my Note to have a kick a$$ phone.
Sounds about the same to me! So why sign another 2 year contract, spend $300, and go to the trouble when either way I have to do a lot of work to end up with what I want? Of course, this is just my opinion and experience.
Here is the deal: I HATE Apple as a company. I used to just laugh at (and pity) them and their users back in the early days. I am close to 40 years old so I have been a geek a long time now. But now they have seriously good products. But their lock downs are evil, the revenue percentages they forcefully demand from developers are evil, the fact that they demand a large cut of in-app purchases is BEYOND EVIL. The latter even hurt consumers since now I can't make Kindle store purchases on an apple device. The fact that they are steadily working towards allowing only Apple App Store purchases on their desktop/notebook computers scares the crap out of me and pure evil and greed!!! I think the general consumer (and certainly the general Apple user) has
no clue what Apple is trying to achieve. Apple has become the most perfect personification of their famous 1984 ad!
The good news is I believe Apple is so arrogant that they cannot see the rising tide. They lost the desktop OS wars to Microsoft back in the early days because they refused to allow their software to run on other hardware. They simply do not see that the same thing is about to happen in the phone/tablet wars. Android and Microsoft are hitting Apple hard and they are getting better all the time. This is why I said earlier that Apple better heavily innovate for the iPhone 5 or I think that is where the tide will turn on Apple.
So if Android would polish up a bit so that the average non-geek has as good an experience out of the box as the average non-geek has with an iPhone I would be a happy camper. I hate that I am going to have to recommend an iPhone to my 68 year old father who has decided he needs a smartphone...but I know I will have more work if I recommend an Android phone for him. I realize us geeky folks can do magic with Android. But us geeky folks pale in comparison to the number of regular folks. We geeks are superior of course

.
You want to know why I am fine with that? Walk into any room and ask those present to hold up their smartphones. Count the iPhones and count the Notes. Yes, I am more of an individual without a me2phone.
LOL. I have to be honest and admit I fall into that camp too. I am the king geek for my family/friends and I like the wow factor of showing off something new. I am expected to buy all the new gadgets...you know what I mean. That said, my iPhone is very personalized and does a lot of stuff that I can show off. I did enjoy blowing peoples minds with my Note for the few days I had it though.