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MoodyBlues' Mother

MoodyBlues said:
That's hard, huh? :(



:laugh: Thanks for that! :laugh:
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Yes it was. It was one thing to see her name actively on mail, and was another thing making contact. Some expenses she owed got wiped clean after providing a copy of the death certificate....it was hard realizig she was just a certificate in the eye of a company, but it was nice that some chose to waiver her bills.
 
Rico ANDROID said:
Yes it was. It was one thing to see her name actively on mail, and was another thing making contact.
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I know, it's a whole different experience. I believe I've posted [earlier in this thread] that every attempt I made at making some necessary phone call ended the same way--with me sobbing uncontrollably. But every single person I dealt with was kind and gentle, and I appreciated that a lot.

Some expenses she owed got wiped clean after providing a copy of the death certificate....it was hard realizig she was just a certificate in the eye of a company, but it was nice that some chose to waiver her bills.
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That is nice. :)

You know what's weird? Our estate attorney--based on his knowledge of Mom's accounts and everything--said I should order 10 copies of her death certificate. So I did, at $16 each. You know how many I've needed? THREE. And I've taken care of pretty much everything, so I don't see the others ever being used. I'd contact a company, like Discover Card, tell them my name, that I'm the account holder's daughter, she died on March 11, blah blah blah, and the account should be closed. I'd ask if they needed a death certificate and they'd say no. :confused: Maybe my hysterical sobbing was enough proof!
 
MoodyBlues said:
I know, it's a whole different experience. I believe I've posted [earlier in this thread] that every attempt I made at making some necessary phone call ended the same way--with me sobbing uncontrollably. But every single person I dealt with was kind and gentle, and I appreciated that a lot.


That is nice. :)

You know what's weird? Our estate attorney--based on his knowledge of Mom's accounts and everything--said I should order 10 copies of her death certificate. So I did, at $16 each. You know how many I've needed? THREE. And I've taken care of pretty much everything, so I don't see the others ever being used. I'd contact a company, like Discover Card, tell them my name, that I'm the account holder's daughter, she died on March 11, blah blah blah, and the account should be closed. I'd ask if they needed a death certificate and they'd say no. :confused: Maybe my hysterical sobbing was enough proof!
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I couldnt help but get a giggle out of that last sentence! It reminded me of some of those "I Love Lucy" episodes - not laughing at 'you' but just the way you said that. Its good that they took your word over the certficate. Keep checking the mail and if you had online access to the card account check to make sure they actually did close it instead of months or a yr later some employee forgot to proccess it and late fees accumulated. I am not surehow that works these days.
 
Rico ANDROID said:
I couldnt help but get a giggle out of that last sentence! It reminded me of some of those "I Love Lucy" episodes - not laughing at 'you' but just the way you said that.
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I LOVE "I Love Lucy" so that's a great analogy! :D

Its good that they took your word over the certficate. Keep checking the mail and if you had online access to the card account check to make sure they actually did close it instead of months or a yr later some employee forgot to proccess it and late fees accumulated. I am not surehow that works these days.
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Thanks. Yeah, I've been very careful about stuff like that. I had online access for Mom's accounts, so I've followed up to make sure things are correct.

Something new that started happening on Easter Sunday is this feeling I get of expecting Mom to call. Before I moved back here, we'd talk on the phone very often, usually daily, and always on holidays. Obviously, it's been nearly 7 years since we did that...since I moved back here in 2006. :) But starting on Easter I had this "I wonder why Mom hasn't called yet" feeling. And each day since then I have similar thoughts, i.e., that she's going to call. Weird.

Also, I've been having extremely vivid, realistic dreams--the kind that are so real you wake up thinking it really happened. In them, she's alive. The most recent one: I walked into her room, and she was back. The hospital bed was there, she was in it, she was alert, awake, talking, everything. Then I was calling hospice and asking, "when she dies this time, what do I do?" Like it was a mistake the first time, or somehow people can be dead and cremated and then alive again. :confused:
 
MoodyBlues said:
I LOVE "I Love Lucy" so that's a great analogy! :D


Thanks. Yeah, I've been very careful about stuff like that. I had online access for Mom's accounts, so I've followed up to make sure things are correct.

Something new that started happening on Easter Sunday is this feeling I get of expecting Mom to call. Before I moved back here, we'd talk on the phone very often, usually daily, and always on holidays. Obviously, it's been nearly 7 years since we did that...since I moved back here in 2006. :) But starting on Easter I had this "I wonder why Mom hasn't called yet" feeling. And each day since then I have similar thoughts, i.e., that she's going to call. Weird.

Also, I've been having extremely vivid, realistic dreams--the kind that are so real you wake up thinking it really happened. In them, she's alive. The most recent one: I walked into her room, and she was back. The hospital bed was there, she was in it, she was alert, awake, talking, everything. Then I was calling hospice and asking, "when she dies this time, what do I do?" Like it was a mistake the first time, or somehow people can be dead and cremated and then alive again. :confused:
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I cant get enough of those Lucy episodes, i even got a lucy metal luncbbox (i collect the orig lunh boxes) and a dvd pck of the show.


Oh how i remember those oh-so-real dreams. You know what that is,right? Its our minds tapping into those well-tract routines thats still fresh in our thoughts and while awake, a smell of something cooking, a perfume or something visual triggers those tracked memories. Then at sleep, when we dont have the waking faculties to know and rationalize the experience, our minds take us to when it was real. The new tracks habent burnedbin yet.

Today, those dreams for me turned into, still being "real" but to where shes "unreachable" like, we are all at home like before, then moms says she have to go visit so and so, or goes on a vacation things that, in my dream makes her out of reach where i cant see or do some of the memory-trackex things we used to do.

Then when waking up, i realize it as well as notice either an aroma or maybe a song on the radio that must have also triggered the dream. They are pleasant yet sad for me.

I hear you on the holliday adjustments. Our fam stopped a lot of those yes back too. Most left us, get this, during december 25 week......i mean its ironic but the joy of that time just aint there anymore so we celebrate yearround and no longsr the "organized rel" way....hope thats not offensive in any way
 
I don't know about you, Moodie, but this song , ive always adored, especially the words and the way Paul's accent rolls out some of the words.

I hope you guys like it, .....(I can see my mom singing along back then.. it was one of her favs)

 
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