holy crap that worked with clockworkmod! thanks adam! but i wanted to ask you all if this instructions is correct. cause i don't wanna screw it up again. let me know what i should include or take out in this list. i wanna use it for future reference when i flash my rom or partition. here it is (thanks vce and lordvincent!)
1. Download CTMod (latest version)zip and copy it to your sd-card
2. Turn off your phone
3. Hold Vol+Power button till you see the Clockworkmod menu
4 Select "Install ZIP from SD-Card" ( use Vol up and down to navigate, camera button to select )
5. After flashing CTMod, select "Reboot System" ( might have to do the "Reboot System" twice, not sure why.....)
6. Boot the phone all the way up ( first boot could take 5 - 10 min )
7. ALL THE PARTITIONING AND FORMATTING SHOULD BE DONE "BEFORE" STEP 7 !!! You can go to CTMod Settings>>>Partition Info and adjust your current partition and format them.... However if you do that, you STILLLLLLLLLLL need to re-format in CWM Recovery after you changed to Data !!! In SDParter - When you slide the top spider to the left, its so you can create the third partition. You want the first one to be Fat, the second to be ext4, and the third to be either ext4 (for SSM) or swap (for data mode)
8. Once up and running, go to "Settings>>>CTMod Settings>>>Kernel Settings and tick "DATA", then "Save Settings" ( when supersu ask, you need to grant permissions )
9. NOW, hold the power button down for a second or so, select reboot, then choose "Recovery" !!! Once back in recovery RE-FORMAT your sdext again ( not sd-card )
10. When format is complete, "reboot system"
Voila !