progress update so far:
install titaniumbackup
backup everything to SD Card
mount SD card and copy folder TitaniumBackup
Find and extract the contents of file com.android.providers.settings-20110306-201549.tar.gz (where numeric portion is timestamp)
go to dbdata\databases\com.android.providers.settings in the resulting folder tree and open file settings.db with this:
https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/sqlite-manager/ (this is firefox plugin; install it, restart firefox, go tools -> SQLite Manager). In SQLite Manager Go Database -> Connect DataBase -> Select to show all file types and browes to where you extracted settings.db. On the left side go to Tables -> Secure. Click "Secure" to highlight. Then on the right side go to Execute SQL tab and copypaste the following 4 strings into the "Enter SQL" field:
insert into secure (name, value) values ('wifi_ap_hide', 0);
insert into secure (name, value) values ('wifi_ap_security', 1);
insert into secure (name, value) values ('wifi_ap_ssid', 'Android Unlimited');
insert into secure (name, value) values ('wifi_ap_passwd', 'mypassword');
where Android Unlimited is the name of SSID and mypassword is your desired password. Change those two fields to your liking...
Click the Run SQL button
At this point you won't have any output. To check whether the above procedure was successful, copy-paste the following into "Enter SQL" field:
select * from secure where name like 'wifi_ap%';
Hit Run SQL
You should now have some output showing the above settings in tables in the field below
If you don't check the steps above. If you do, Go Database -> Close Database
Now use 7-Zip or any other of the many free tar.gz management tools available (winrar won't inject into tar.gz archive). BACKUP ORIGINAL tar.gz file first, then replace with the new version
Unmount SD card from PC, run titanium backup and restore everything.
Let me know, if this works... Also, if someone knows of another wireless utility to control Android native wifi stuff for phones like ours where it's been purposefully taken away, please post...