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I know it's long...but it's worth the read.. HAPPY FRIDAY!!!
The covers of most men's and women's magazines have similar headlines: "Get Great Abs" and "Have Amazing Sex."
From the looks of it, these two issues have been recycled over and over (with some other stereotypically gender-relevant articles thrown in) on every Men's Health, Maxim, Cosmopolitan and Glamour cover since the dawn of time. In fact, I'd bet that if we could get a better translation of cave drawings, they would read something like "Grok get flat belly. Make girl Grok moan with joy."
And we keep buying them. We keep buying this lie that these things will make us happy. I've had washboard abs (past tense) and I've had some pretty phenomenal sex. Neither one made me a better person. Neither one completed me or made my life more fulfilling.
We chase this idea of "I will be happy when... "
I will be happy when I have a new car. I will be happy when I get married. I will be happy when I get a better job. I will be happy when I lose five pounds. What if instead we choose to be happy -- right now?
If you can read this, your life is pretty awesome.
Setting aside our first-world problems and pettiness, if you are online reading this, you have both electricity and WiFi or access to them. Odds are you are in a shelter of some sort, or on a smart phone (and then kudos to you for reading this on the go). Life might bump and bruise us, it may not always go the way we plan and I know I get frustrated with mine, but here's the thing: You are alive.
Because you are alive, everything is possible. So about those eight tips...
1. Stop believing your bullshit.
All that stuff you tell yourself about how you are a commitment phobe or a coward or lazy or not creative or unlucky? Stop it. It's bullshit, and deep down you know it. We are all insecure 14 year olds at heart. We're all scared. We all have dreams inside of us that we've tucked away because somewhere along the line we tacked on those ideas about who we are that buried that essential brilliant, childlike sense of wonder. The more we stick to these scripts about who we are, the longer we live a fraction of the life we could be living. Let it go. Be who you are beneath the bullshit.
2. Be happy now.
Not because The Secret says so. Not because of some shiny happy Oprah crap. But because we can choose to appreciate what is in our lives instead of being angry or regretful about what we lack. It's a small, significant shift in perspective. It's easier to look at what's wrong or missing in our lives and believe that is the big picture -- but it isn't. We can choose to let the beautiful parts set the tone.
3. Look at the stars.
It won't fix the economy. It won't stop wars. It won't give you flat abs, or better sex or even help you figure out your relationship and what you want to do with your life. But it's important. It helps you remember that you and your problems are both infinitesimally small and conversely, that you are a piece of an amazing and vast universe. I do it daily -- it helps.
4. Let people in.
Truly. Tell people that you trust when you need help, or you're depressed -- or you're happy and you want to share it with them. Acknowledge that you care about them and let yourself feel it. Instead of doing that other thing we sometimes do, which is to play it cool and pretend we only care as much as the other person has admitted to caring, and only open up half way. Go all in -- it's worth it.
5. Stop with the crazy making.
I got to a friend's doorstep the other day, slightly breathless and nearly in tears after getting a little lost, physically and existentially. She asked what was wrong and I started to explain and then stopped myself and admitted, "I'm being stupid and have decided to invent lots of problems in my head." Life is full of obstacles; we don't need to create extra ones. A great corollary to this one is from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz: Don't take things personally. Most of the time, other people's choices and attitudes have absolutely nothing to do with you. Unless you've been behaving like a jerk, in which case...
6. Learn to apologize.
Not the ridiculous, self-deprecating apologizing for who you are and for existing that some people seem to do (what's up with that, anyway?). The ability to sincerely apologize -- without ever interjecting the word "but" -- is an essential skill for living around other human beings. If you are going to be around other people, eventually you will need to apologize. It's an important practice.
7. Practice gratitude.
Practice it out loud to the people around you. Practice it silently when you bless your food. Practice it often. Gratitude is not a first world only virtue. I saw a photo recently, of a girl in abject poverty, surrounded by filth and destruction. Her face was completely lit up with joy and gratitude as she played with a hula hoop she'd been given. Gratitude is what makes what we have enough. Gratitude is the most basic way to connect with that sense of being an integral part of the vastness of the universe; as I mentioned with looking up at the stars, it's that sense of wonder and humility, contrasted with celebrating our connection to all of life.
8. Be kind.
Kurt Vonnegut said it best (though admittedly, and somewhat ashamedly -- I am not a Vonnegut fan): "There's only one rule that I know of, babies -- 'God damn it, you've got to be kind.'"
Kindness costs us nothing and pays exponential dividends. I can't save the whole world. I can't bring peace to Syria. I can't fix the environment or the health care system, and from the looks of it, I may end up burning my dinner.
But I can be kind.
If the biggest thing we do in life is to extend love and kindness to even one other human being, we have changed the world for the better.
That's a hell of a lot more important than flat abs in my book.
The covers of most men's and women's magazines have similar headlines: "Get Great Abs" and "Have Amazing Sex."
From the looks of it, these two issues have been recycled over and over (with some other stereotypically gender-relevant articles thrown in) on every Men's Health, Maxim, Cosmopolitan and Glamour cover since the dawn of time. In fact, I'd bet that if we could get a better translation of cave drawings, they would read something like "Grok get flat belly. Make girl Grok moan with joy."
And we keep buying them. We keep buying this lie that these things will make us happy. I've had washboard abs (past tense) and I've had some pretty phenomenal sex. Neither one made me a better person. Neither one completed me or made my life more fulfilling.
We chase this idea of "I will be happy when... "
I will be happy when I have a new car. I will be happy when I get married. I will be happy when I get a better job. I will be happy when I lose five pounds. What if instead we choose to be happy -- right now?
If you can read this, your life is pretty awesome.
Setting aside our first-world problems and pettiness, if you are online reading this, you have both electricity and WiFi or access to them. Odds are you are in a shelter of some sort, or on a smart phone (and then kudos to you for reading this on the go). Life might bump and bruise us, it may not always go the way we plan and I know I get frustrated with mine, but here's the thing: You are alive.
Because you are alive, everything is possible. So about those eight tips...
1. Stop believing your bullshit.
All that stuff you tell yourself about how you are a commitment phobe or a coward or lazy or not creative or unlucky? Stop it. It's bullshit, and deep down you know it. We are all insecure 14 year olds at heart. We're all scared. We all have dreams inside of us that we've tucked away because somewhere along the line we tacked on those ideas about who we are that buried that essential brilliant, childlike sense of wonder. The more we stick to these scripts about who we are, the longer we live a fraction of the life we could be living. Let it go. Be who you are beneath the bullshit.
2. Be happy now.
Not because The Secret says so. Not because of some shiny happy Oprah crap. But because we can choose to appreciate what is in our lives instead of being angry or regretful about what we lack. It's a small, significant shift in perspective. It's easier to look at what's wrong or missing in our lives and believe that is the big picture -- but it isn't. We can choose to let the beautiful parts set the tone.
3. Look at the stars.
It won't fix the economy. It won't stop wars. It won't give you flat abs, or better sex or even help you figure out your relationship and what you want to do with your life. But it's important. It helps you remember that you and your problems are both infinitesimally small and conversely, that you are a piece of an amazing and vast universe. I do it daily -- it helps.
4. Let people in.
Truly. Tell people that you trust when you need help, or you're depressed -- or you're happy and you want to share it with them. Acknowledge that you care about them and let yourself feel it. Instead of doing that other thing we sometimes do, which is to play it cool and pretend we only care as much as the other person has admitted to caring, and only open up half way. Go all in -- it's worth it.
5. Stop with the crazy making.
I got to a friend's doorstep the other day, slightly breathless and nearly in tears after getting a little lost, physically and existentially. She asked what was wrong and I started to explain and then stopped myself and admitted, "I'm being stupid and have decided to invent lots of problems in my head." Life is full of obstacles; we don't need to create extra ones. A great corollary to this one is from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz: Don't take things personally. Most of the time, other people's choices and attitudes have absolutely nothing to do with you. Unless you've been behaving like a jerk, in which case...
6. Learn to apologize.
Not the ridiculous, self-deprecating apologizing for who you are and for existing that some people seem to do (what's up with that, anyway?). The ability to sincerely apologize -- without ever interjecting the word "but" -- is an essential skill for living around other human beings. If you are going to be around other people, eventually you will need to apologize. It's an important practice.
7. Practice gratitude.
Practice it out loud to the people around you. Practice it silently when you bless your food. Practice it often. Gratitude is not a first world only virtue. I saw a photo recently, of a girl in abject poverty, surrounded by filth and destruction. Her face was completely lit up with joy and gratitude as she played with a hula hoop she'd been given. Gratitude is what makes what we have enough. Gratitude is the most basic way to connect with that sense of being an integral part of the vastness of the universe; as I mentioned with looking up at the stars, it's that sense of wonder and humility, contrasted with celebrating our connection to all of life.
8. Be kind.
Kurt Vonnegut said it best (though admittedly, and somewhat ashamedly -- I am not a Vonnegut fan): "There's only one rule that I know of, babies -- 'God damn it, you've got to be kind.'"
Kindness costs us nothing and pays exponential dividends. I can't save the whole world. I can't bring peace to Syria. I can't fix the environment or the health care system, and from the looks of it, I may end up burning my dinner.
But I can be kind.
If the biggest thing we do in life is to extend love and kindness to even one other human being, we have changed the world for the better.
That's a hell of a lot more important than flat abs in my book.
K
Kaat72
Guest
Thanks huh, you are very right here! (why can i give one 'thanks' only?)
A vid I watched earlier today is this one. It brings all this in practice, commercially. But if you get the picture, you can make it work for you, personally.
Grab a drink, sit back and make some time. It's 17 minutes, but worth the watch.
A vid I watched earlier today is this one. It brings all this in practice, commercially. But if you get the picture, you can make it work for you, personally.
Grab a drink, sit back and make some time. It's 17 minutes, but worth the watch.
Hello friend,
Thanks for your email.
We are very sorry to have caused you so much inconvenience and please accept my apologies for any trouble. We will resend you this unit today.
Usually, we can give you tracking number tomorrow, but tomorrow is weekend in china, meanwhile, China's National Day is from 1st Oct. to 7th Oct, all the Chinese people have a holiday for 7 days, so we will give you the tracking number on 8th Oct. In order to thank you for your waiting with patience.
We are willing to send auto light logo as a gift to you, is it ok? Please advance. Thank you very much.
EDIT:
Sorry I meant this for the CTRL+V thread. Oh well never mind.
Thanks for your email.
We are very sorry to have caused you so much inconvenience and please accept my apologies for any trouble. We will resend you this unit today.
Usually, we can give you tracking number tomorrow, but tomorrow is weekend in china, meanwhile, China's National Day is from 1st Oct. to 7th Oct, all the Chinese people have a holiday for 7 days, so we will give you the tracking number on 8th Oct. In order to thank you for your waiting with patience.
We are willing to send auto light logo as a gift to you, is it ok? Please advance. Thank you very much.
EDIT:
Sorry I meant this for the CTRL+V thread. Oh well never mind.
sfbloodbrother
Extreme Android User
Lol wat?
Revenant Ghost
Android Expert
M
Member243850
Guest
MADE IN CHINA
(By the finest slaves known to man!
)Hand picked as well!
Hand picked ek se!
K
Kaat72
Guest
:wavey: Hey Stinky friend. Whattup?
sfbloodbrother
Extreme Android User
Stinky is back?
M
Member243850
Guest
No!
Not really!
I am actually GlassesMon(TM) and I haz been an evil evil evil little Mon and I HIJACKED Stinky's account by using "ancient art of searching through data base to find credentials and hijack account with password change and email change".
This glorious art... it is not known to many... and has been passed down from generation to generation by all those who like Glasses and hate the evil rule borderliner Stinky Stinky Stinky Stinky Stinky.....
Before my ancient art was completed - I changed his password and email account.... and sent him a viruses that will Rick Roll his Stinky computer until the end of days...
Now who wants to buy a nice pair of Glasses from "The Dealer" - yours truly!
ME!
If you wanna pair - hook me up ek se!
Just dial:
55555 - FOUR EYES
And I will hook you up chop chop!
I'm still trying to figure out where you got that I wear glasses.
Btw, it's really me, your pal Stinky - I hacked his account to retaliate.
Btw, it's really me, your pal Stinky - I hacked his account to retaliate.
LilacBleeds
Android Enthusiast
hey everyone.....
just been thinking i haven't had much time for here just lately... think i should come here more often....
just been thinking i haven't had much time for here just lately... think i should come here more often....
sfbloodbrother
Extreme Android User
You should.
LilacBleeds
Android Enthusiast
yeah I have missed this place... just been a bit busy....
Lost a dog got a new dog, then I went to London for a Holiday and now I back at work with hell of lot going on..... I need another Holiday again
M
Member243850
Guest
Yeah I know how you feel!
I got my exams in about 1 month plus minus and with my part time and job and all the extra work around the house it is a bit tough at the moment!
AND - today I found out I have got what the doctor thinks is quite / very bad hernia!
hahaha!
xD
KAK funny bruizer!!!
Ja I got a hernia or something!
xD
SO I now know what has caused all this crazy ass pain for like a whole year now!
heh!
Better late then never ek se!
M
Member243850
Guest
Woooooow!
A hernia thing SUCKS big time bruizer!
Then the doctor tells me "naaah I got 2 nylon sheets already on each side of my abdomen! Don't stress!"
Then I told him I don't like people cutting me openz to put nylon in my poor flawless body!
xD
"flawless"!
HAHAHAHAAA!
xD
heh!
I'm Stinky and I know it!
I am Lactose Intolerant, diabetic, dyslexic, psychotic, Caucasian, White, I think 1.7m tall, angry, unhappy, too fast, too slow I think, verbal diarrhea, motor mouth - and I know it!
xD
hah!
xD
A hernia thing SUCKS big time bruizer!
Then the doctor tells me "naaah I got 2 nylon sheets already on each side of my abdomen! Don't stress!"
Then I told him I don't like people cutting me openz to put nylon in my poor flawless body!
xD
"flawless"!
HAHAHAHAAA!
xD
heh!
I'm Stinky and I know it!
I am Lactose Intolerant, diabetic, dyslexic, psychotic, Caucasian, White, I think 1.7m tall, angry, unhappy, too fast, too slow I think, verbal diarrhea, motor mouth - and I know it!
xD
hah!
xD
London is always a good place for a break. Although this time I got as far as Heathrow, then straight on the National Express to Bristol LOL.
Think everyone needs two holidays. Going to Beijing tomorrow for a few days, see some friends and meet another British friend from PingDingShan, Henan who's meeting me there to help him buy a new laptop.
Thatdad
Android Expert
sfbloodbrother
Extreme Android User
I slept to noon today... I rarely do that, but its because I couldn't sleep last night.
I have no idea who most of references in this are all about but I think I agree with the premise on creativity.
The Daily Beast: The Lamest Generation. http://google.com/producer/s/CBIw8oaTyQI
PS - yes, it's generally a crappy article lmao.
The Daily Beast: The Lamest Generation. http://google.com/producer/s/CBIw8oaTyQI
PS - yes, it's generally a crappy article lmao.
sfbloodbrother
Extreme Android User
Carmel coffee is so good.
