hmmmm okay, heres what I wanted to get back to... after I read your post, I thought I might have a speak with you.
There comes a point in a great many relationships when things become well comfortable... so comfortable in fact, there isnt much talking or whatever going on... its like every thing has already been said. I dont know what type of person I am, but I can let you know from my own life experience what is going on in my mind. Im an odd one. I can relate with you a a few points, so let me just tell you a story and see if it gives you any insight on relationships, and what a woman may be thinking.
Im one of those women that just cant figure out what they want.... sometimes I want nothing but silence, to live a comfortable existence with the person I am next to. Other times I need excitement, adventure, I need to travel, and be away from everyone, and just say F You to the world.. to use a man, and leave in the middle of the night. Or just to have a friend, someone to tell all my secrets to... not a lover, but a friend. Other times, I just want to be alone... in my own mind, in my own room, reading a book, not talking, not doing anything but living my books world.
Its hard being 36, and sill not knowing where I should be, who I should be, what I want to be, who I want to be with, if anyone at all.
10 months is kind of early to be going into this rut, but let me tell you starting a fight wont make it better.... if anything, she will pull further away from you... I know this, I live this. Im at the "I dont like to go out and do things with people, because I dont feel good about myself, but I have an easier time talking on the internet." Points of my life.
Maybe she is feeling insecure herself, and wants to go into her own mind to think about it. Maybe you need to make a different sort of move. Write her a small love note, and put it in her lunch, leave it in her car, on top of her pillow... somewhere, but dont make it sound desperate or stalkerish.... a nice "I was thinking of you" and set a hershey's kiss or something next to it. Make her dinner, but dont ask for her thanks or anything in return... do it just because. Bake her some brownies, and cut one in the shape of a heart and serve it to her with vanilla ice cream and whipped topping. Small things, never ask for anything in return. Ask her if she would like to see a movie at the cheap theater, see if she wants to play a video game with you, do something she enjoys. Ask her if she wants a girls night out... but dont push her. you are pushing her, and she is pushing back.
The weight and insercurity.... hehehehehe very touchy subject for me. As a child growing up, I was a little on the pudgy side... nothing big.. just kinda cute and pudgy. My dad called me ham hock, and cow, and fatty.... until I turned 13 and couldnt take it anymore... suicide attempts and my parents never noticed... so finally I starved myself. I became quite the pretty girl, I became popular among the boys, I felt on top of the world. Of course it probably helped that I wasnt into girly crap... I like dirt bikes, quads, Dungeons and Dragons, Street Racing, Video Games, and various other boy activities, lol (still do)... anyhow... I got pregnant at the age of 18, and got fat all over again. I have been struggling since... funny how I can lose weight when I feel pretty, but since I never feel pretty I seem to have a bit of a tough time. I understand about insecurity. You made it though! I dont know if you can lose that fat brain mentality, but Im thinking it isnt a weight thing that is getting between you two.... tell you what, instead of picking a fight, take a jog, or a walk. Be there if she needs you, but dont be in her face.... you know? Meh, not sure if I made any sense, but at least I wrote a book for ya! lol
